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Fall & Letting Go.

This morning I read this quote :  “Autumn shows us how beautiful it is to let things go.” Much later…

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This morning I read this quote :  “Autumn shows us how beautiful it is to let things go.”

Much later this morning I took the dogs out for a stroll in the woods and as the leaves crunched beneath my sturdy and very fashion forward Birks, I remembered said quote. How ridiculous it is to say that a season is good for something so big, so vast, deep and wide. Why fall? Why am I thinking about a Twit quote right now?

Well. We all know the science of seasons.

As ridiculous as it sounds, I looked down and saw this gorgeous  honey brown leaf. It was speckled with green dots that had yellow ring around them. I picked it up and felt the smooth top side and stiff midrib. It felt as if it could have been plucked from a spring sapling, but here it was laying on the ground, waiting to dry to dust. Something about the leaf got me and the quote fell again into my brain. At some point, that leaf was an amazing part of a summer miracle.

How cliche, right?

At some point in life everyone has a summer miracle. A shiny, splendid thing that keeps them alive. But seasons happen in life and whatever was so wonderful has ceased to be. Trees drop leaves. Just as easy as a light breeze twisting its way through the branches, leaves depart. They silently fall to the ground and become something all together different. If trees can give up such an integral part of who they are because they no longer serve the purpose they were meant to serve, why can’t we? Why can’t we just as easily drop the things that are no longer for us?

If we want to get really into this analogy, we are a lot like trees. Strong, sturdy, deeply rooted in dirt. We cannot simply cling to our leaves once they die. Yes, of course, some ass is going to make a pine tree argument, and if that is your stance, ok. I’ll chop you down in a few months and string lights on you and you’ll feel worthy for a handful of weeks then we will throw you out with the garbage. I think people are better off being deciduous.

Let’s try it. Let’s just remember fall science, that things have to go. So let them.

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New Year, New You?

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Count, Clink, Kiss, Feel Bad About Yourself On a Fundamental Level.

Stop, Start.

Unless you live under a rock (sans wi-fi), you read the fantastic 2017 review by the incomparable Katie Reilly.  Said article got me thinking- while we are all looking back for now, soon we will all turn our eyes to the future that is 2018. Every year since I’ve been old enough to understand what a resolution was, I made them at the turn of the calendar. I have to assume that most people have done the same. Let me guess, you made one resolution to START something and one to STOP something.

I’ll give you a minute to think about that.

Stop smoking? Start eating better? Start working out? Stop running perpetually 15 minutes late?

How many times have you succeeded at any of those all-or-nothing resolutions?

Again, please think about it.


Worst part? You feel like a gigantic failure because you didn’t keep those impossible promises to yourself. You are not the only one- gym memberships spike in January and fold like a used napkin in February.

Change The Lingo.

So lets change the conversation regarding resolutions. We don’t need to do this. We are decent humans, with some slightly left of center habits.

We should take this opportunity to find things we can actually improve on. Nobody is going to watch the clock tick past midnight and throw their champagne flute out the window in efforts to suddenly improve their health.  (Made in Utica does not condone wasteful champagne behavior)

So resolve to change the way you look at self-improvement. Resolve to give yourself a freaking break. Resolve to help someone else. Resolve to do things that you can do, and feel good about.

Don’t Forget.

You are beautiful. You are a wonder of nature and science. You are here for a reason, and you are loved.

My Resolutions.

I, The Lady of The New Shoes, resolve that in 2018 I will TRY TO:

  • Leave my phone in my purse more often during social situations to better enjoy the moment.
  • Say “Thank you” instead of “Sorry”.
  • Not feel guilty when I need a day of Netflix and decompression with zero social interaction.
  • Look forward to things instead of stressing things.
  • Give myself a freaking break.

Your Turn.

xoxo Shoes.


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Sometimes it is perfectly acceptable to eat an entire pizza yourself

For those of you living under a proverbial rock, Utica’s favorite pizza truck, Mangia Macrina, recently opened their brick and…

For those of you living under a proverbial rock, Utica’s favorite pizza truck, Mangia Macrina, recently opened their brick and mortar location, across from the Yahnundasis in New Hartford.


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The Gym is Not Necessary

The last couple of weeks have been a whirlwind of activity, meetings, events, and plenty of work getting done.


Due to this increase in my scheduling density, I was forced to buckle and break my efforts to not eat like a feral dog on the streets of New Delhi. I went to the McDonald’s drive-thru and as I sheepishly ordered my decrease in life span, I felt super defeated. I have been so busy that cooking and preparing meals for myself has been pushed back on the priority list. HOWEVER, the part that matters is that even though I felt defeated, I didn’t throw in the towel and I am back on my mission. Fast food only once in over a month for me is a big deal, so I am pretty pumped on that.

But let’s talk about what I actually want to talk about now; exercise and physical activity.

If you are like me, you hate the gym. You hate the smell of the gym, and it’s not the smell of sweat or body odor, but the smell of that weird padded floor. You hate the implied politics and whether you go to Planet Fitness or not, there is always judgement and side eye. I am always at the ready for some sort of gym brawl to break out over who has the most defined calf muscle.

Fortunately, we live in a place that we have access to an unlimited amount of outdoor activities. Unfortunately, most of those are only available 4 months a year. Good thing it looks like this year we will have a couple extra months, so hooray for that. Thanks to this, forget the gym and get outside.

I joined the rest of Team Made In Utica to hit the Daniel Barden Highland Mudfest last weekend at MKJ Farms in Deansboro. That 5K gave me enough cardio that it likely surpassed any type of gym workouts I could have done in a week. I had a much better time, I was outside in the sun, and there was a bunch of Saranac waiting for me at the end. Win, Win, Win. I had a few spare minutes last week and popped down to Proctor Park with Justin and Sam and played some soccer. Half an hour of casually kicking the ball around was far more enjoyable than watching the huge dudes in the corner congratulate each other on being huge.

I highly suggest if you don’t want to or can’t get to the gym, just get outside and do some sort of activity. Even just walking burns lots of calories and can be a great way to breathe in fresh air rather than whatever happens to be floating around the gym. Hiking, biking, walking, running, stretching(yes stretching is a great physical activity to help lean out muscle), literally anything that involves moving and getting your heart rate elevated.

At this point you may be saying “Mark, I work all day, have kids, I am allergic to everything, I only own suits, so how can I get outside and get some exercise?” Funny you ask, I have an option for that also, because for a long time I didn’t want to do anything outside either because I was working 12 hours a day and all I wanted to do after work was sit on the couch and watch The Office for the 136th time. Fun fact: at this point in my life I was over weight, had zero energy, and felt like shit all the time. HOWEVER, I figured “OK, I am sitting here doing nothing, why not sit on the floor and try to stretch out so I don’t feel so damn bloated and uncomfortable?”

So I did.

And I felt better. And I kept doing it. And I felt better. Then I threw some pushups in there. That made my heart feel like it was going to explode, but then got easier. Then some crunches, and planks, and other zero impact, low movement type things. And all of a sudden I felt a lot better, I lost weight, and wanted to be outside more often. Funny how that works.

So while you are enjoying the 30 minutes you may get to yourself to chill a day, why not be dual purpose? I heard from a brilliant mind once “Just gotta fit it in when you have the time Brian, that’s the key.” That great mind was Stewie Griffin, and it is brilliant. If you have 10 minutes, you can do a lot of stretching or pushups or yoga or whatever. Fit it in when you have the time, Brian. I hope one of you is named Brian, or at least Bryan.

To be honest, my hands are absolutely killing me from the Mud Fest, and also running with a death grip on my camera, so typing is making my fingers hurt, but I can’t say it too loud because Ben Stiller is going to put me on landscape duty and my back is going to hurt. Well newsflash Ben, my back always hurts.

Next time I want to talk about something that is a sensitive topic to most, but it is something that gets not nearly enough play in the general dialogue of our society, and that is Mental Health and Well Being. I have struggled with this through my whole life and I have noticed, being Over 30, that my mentality is shifting; sometimes for the good and sometimes for the bad.

Until next time, get off your ass and do something.

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I’m not sorry.

New Shoes here. I wanted to discuss a few things on this rainy weekend. The act of being “well” or working…

New Shoes here. I wanted to discuss a few things on this rainy weekend.

The act of being “well” or working on your “wellness” is not about losing weight. So frequently people get the two concepts mixed up. Losing weight is losing weight, and being well is being well. After a few weeks of tracking what goes in my mouth and how many calories I burn I’ve lost zero weight. I am still the same soft sided bird that I was when this started. That does not mean that I am not well.

At first I was kind of disappointed, I even spent a few seconds thinking the scale was broken. It wasn’t. I put the chihuahua on it, and it weighed him accurately. He lost a pound.

After pushing Paco the newly svelte chihuahua out of the room, I sat on the floor and thought about what it meant to not lose a pound. Was I currently failing in my “wellness” program? Did I actually make muscle and lose any fat? “No”, the roll on my stomach screamed. So now what?

I think we, as people, are so obsessed with losing weight that we forget how to be well. It’s pretty clear that my body is happy keeping some softness around my bones. There are great benefits to that; my jeans always look filled out, if I fall I have some padding between me and the ground effectively keeping me sans broken bones… and various other things.

I think my wellness plan is more about coming to terms with my life and making changes that I can do and less about becoming a swimsuit model. I’m 31, swimsuit modeling is clearly not going to happen for me at this point. BUT I can understand and practice moderation in my everyday life and thats probably going to be more beneficial than dropping from a size 6/8 to a size 2/0. So I limit the cookies and get my ass on a treadmill four times a week. Doable.

Speaking of daily life,

I do want to put this in: I drink protein shakes. I know I haven’t said anything about this yet, mainly because it was so routine to me that I didn’t even think about it for the blog. For breakfast I have an organic  raw protein (non gmo, non dairy, no sugar, no gluten blah blah blah) with greens (Google the term Raw Protein and Greens and you’ll see the brand I use) and I add one banana, 1/2 cup frozen berries, a packet of (the same brand as my powder) probiotic and water. I also take a large multi vitamin. While this may not seem very exciting to you guys, it keeps me full and healthy (look at the ingredients of the protein powder- its impressive).


If I never lose a pound I’ll be a-ok.
xox NewShoes & Paco


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